Therapy for young men Copenhagen
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- Last updated October 18, 2026
What I want young men to hear from me
In this short video, I explain why feeling lost in your twenties is not a personal failure, and how our sessions help you find a direction you can trust.
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At a glance
Therapy for young men Copenhagen helps men in their twenties and early thirties who feel stuck, behind or unsure who they are becoming. Sessions are 1-hour appointments with 50 minutes of therapy, just you and me, in English or Danish, in central Copenhagen or online.
I help you understand what is holding you back, separate other people’s expectations from your own, and build the habits and confidence of an adult life that fits you. Within my psychotherapy for men, this page covers the years of becoming an adult. My page on psychotherapy for young adults covers this stage of life for everyone, while this one is about becoming a man in it.
You can ask for a free discovery call, book a first session, look through my client policy or write to me.
Is this the right page for you?
This is for you if…
Therapy for young men Copenhagen is for men from their early twenties who feel that adult life has started without them. You may be studying, between jobs or in your first real role, and you do not feel the way you expected to. You want straight talk and a clearer sense of where you are going.
- You finished your degree months ago, and every job application that goes unanswered feels like a verdict on you as a person.
- You scroll through friends’ promotions, trips and new flats at night and feel further behind with every picture you see.
- You tell your parents on the phone that everything is fine, then spend the rest of the evening gaming until very late.
- You go to the fredagsbar or out on Saturdays and drink more than you meant to, mainly to feel at ease around people.
- You get to the second or third date and lose interest, or panic, as soon as someone seems to really like you.
- You have moved to a new city and know plenty of faces, but nobody here you would tell that you are struggling.
- You chose your studies to please someone else, and now you are not sure you want the life they lead to.
- You sense that you have not yet worked out what kind of man you want to be, and nobody older has helped.
This is probably not for you if…
Some young men need a page that goes deeper into one theme. If one of these sounds more like you, the linked page will help more.
- You are older, or several themes run together and you want a broad place to start. → psychotherapy for men
- The main pain is that you have nobody to call, and the loneliness has lasted a long time. → therapy for lonely men
- You have felt flat, numb or irritable for months, and getting out of bed is a daily fight. → depression in men
- You suspect that focus, restlessness or overwhelm comes from how your brain works. → ADHD psychotherapy
- Your main worry is sex, desire or confidence in bed, and you want to talk about that first. → men’s sexuality therapy
- You moved here for work or love, and settling into Danish life is the hardest part. → therapy for expat men
- You bend yourself to be liked, never say no and hide your own needs from everyone. → nice guy syndrome therapy
- You are in immediate danger, or you are thinking about ending your life. Please call 112, or 1813 for urgent mental health help in the Capital Region.
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Client reviews
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Mark’s view
“In the last few months alone, I have sat with young men who are bright, capable and quietly convinced that everyone else was handed a manual they never got. I do not think their problem is laziness or a lack of feeling. It is that very few older men have been straight with them. Underneath the late nights online or the endless applications, I hear ‘Am I falling behind, and will anyone wait for me?’ and right next to it ‘Just let me work it out on my own, I do not need anyone.’ Both make sense at your age. What helps is not more advice from the internet. It is a steady older voice that takes you seriously, tells you the truth and expects something of you.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
Meet Mark, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist specialising in expats and international couples. I work in English and Danish, from my practice in central Copenhagen and online.
Practising since 2004, I bring a bicultural perspective to work with individuals and couples across languages and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with approaches such as integral psychotherapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian psychoanalysis, and object relations theory. I also have specialist training in attachment theory, narcissism, and borderline personality disorder.
For support with life between cultures, explore expat psychotherapy or expat couples therapy. My practice is supported by ongoing training and supervision. To read more about my background, training, and approach, visit About me.
The importance of supervision
Good therapy begins with good supervision
I regularly meet with experienced senior psychotherapists in Denmark and abroad to reflect on my work, challenge my thinking, and continue developing my skills. This ongoing process supports the quality of my individual and couples therapy, helping me offer thoughtful, ethical, and effective care.
My focus is simple: excellence, integrity, and impact.
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A typical situation
Liam is 26 and came to Copenhagen from Dublin for a master’s in data science. He handed in his thesis in June and has lost count of the applications he has sent since. He lives in a shared flat in Nørrebro, plays online with friends from home most nights and tells his parents that everything is going well. On Fridays he drinks more than he means to. He has started to wonder whether something is wrong with him, and he would never say so out loud.
I would start with the gap between what Liam tells his parents and what his days actually look like. In our first session he would probably see that he is less lost than he fears, and far more alone with it than anyone knows. From there, we can choose one concrete step for the coming week.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
This is when you need therapy for young men with me
You have tried to push through on your own, and the sense of being stuck has only grown.
You do not need a crisis, a diagnosis or a perfect explanation to come and see me. A nagging sense that you are drifting, that your days have no shape or that you are hiding how you feel from everyone is reason enough. Over 22 years of practice, I have learned to tell the ordinary turbulence of your twenties from a pattern that needs proper attention.
My professional view is that the earlier you look at this, the less it hardens into how you see yourself. I will help you work out what is going on and what needs to change. These 6 questions can help you decide whether now is the time.
Have your days lost their shape since your studies or first job ended?
If they have, take it seriously. Without lectures, deadlines or a manager, many young men slide. You go to bed later and later, wake up at noon, open the laptop to apply for jobs and end up on YouTube.
I would look at what used to hold your days together and what took its place. That tells us whether you are in a rough patch or in a pattern that needs work. If this is you, book a session with me and we will start with your actual week.
Do you want to be your own man and still want your parents to approve?
Most young men want both, and the 2 wishes pull against each other. You moved out, maybe moved country, to live your own life. Yet one comment from your father about your choices can wreck your week, and you still check how a decision will look to the family.
I do not treat your need for approval as weak or your independence as arrogant. I help you see what each side is guarding, so you can stay connected to your family without living by their script.
Does an unanswered message or a dating app silence stay with you for days?
For many young men it does, and it is rarely talked about. You send a message, see that it has been read and wait. You go over what you wrote and check your phone again and again. When a match goes quiet, it can feel like proof that you are not enough.
Wanting to be chosen is human, and I will not mock it. I help you notice how fast the alarm goes off and what older fear it touches, often a sense of having to earn your place. Then we practise saying what you want plainly.
Do you want someone close, and then back off as soon as it gets serious?
That pattern is common at your age, and it can leave you confused about yourself. You chase someone, the dates go well, and the moment they want to meet your friends or call it a relationship, something in you goes cold.
I help you slow the pattern down and find the moment the wish for closeness turns into a wish to run, often out of a fear of being trapped or found out. I respect that fear, and I will also ask you to stop leaving people confused when you could tell them the truth.
Do you disappear into games, the gym or your phone when life asks too much?
Many young men cope by switching off. When a friend wants a real talk, a girlfriend is upset or the future feels too big, you put on headphones, start another match or train until your head is quiet. Over months, the hard things never get looked at, and people stop asking.
I am not against games, the gym or time alone. I help you see what the switching off protects you from. The aim is that you choose your escapes, rather than your escapes choosing you.
Are you unsure what kind of man you actually want to be?
Many young men are, and it is not a defect. You have been told to be strong but sensitive, ambitious but relaxed, independent but always available. It is easy to end up copying someone, or to give up and become nobody in particular. My article on identity crisis describes how disorienting that can feel.
Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, in “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover”, describe a difference between boy psychology and man psychology. I find that a useful lens: not a rulebook, but a way of seeing which parts of you are still waiting for permission to grow up. You choose what kind of man you become.
If one of these questions hit home, ask for a free call to see how I work, or book a session and get started.
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What therapy for young men with me will help you do
Understanding yourself is a start, but the work has to show up in your mornings, your relationships and your choices.
Therapy with me will help you understand why you feel stuck, see the habits and beliefs that keep you there, and make changes you can feel. Insight alone does not get you out of bed at 8 or send the difficult message.
I am an active therapist. I will give you my honest read, set you small tasks and challenge you when an excuse is doing your thinking. Since 2010 I have been a student of men’s work, and it has added to and deepened my training as a psychotherapist. These 6 questions describe what we work towards.
How will I help you see what is really holding you back?
I help you tell the real problem apart from the noise around it. The late nights, the drinking and the comparing are real, but they are usually symptoms. Underneath there is often something more specific: a fear of failing your parents, a belief that you must be exceptional to be worth anything, or grief about a home you left.
I will tell you what I think is going on and what to deal with first. When you are ready, book a session with me and we will map it out together.
How can you notice the slide before a lost week begins?
You can learn to catch it early. A lost week usually starts small: skipping the morning walk, a late night that turns into a late morning, a message you leave unanswered because it feels too heavy. Spot that first step, and you can still turn around.
In sessions, we trace your own early signs and what each one is trying to avoid. Then we agree a concrete counter-move and you try it the same week. Recognising the slide is only useful if you also practise climbing out of it.
How can you calm the pressure and panic about your future?
Calming down does not mean pretending you do not care about your future. It means getting steady enough to think, so that the panic stops making your choices. A lot of the pressure comes from comparing your inside with everyone else’s outside.
I help you notice the pressure in your body before it turns into paralysis, and find simple ways of settling it that you will actually use. If your studies or research are wearing you down, my article on PhD burnout may help too.
How can you say what you want without needing to be liked first?
It starts with knowing what you want, which is harder when you have spent years working out what others want from you. Many young men learned that being easy-going and helpful was the safe way to be liked. So you agree, joke, go along and then feel quietly used.
Robert Glover’s “No More Mr. Nice Guy” describes men who hide their needs to win approval, and the hidden deals that follow. I use that idea to help you notice when you are pleasing rather than speaking. We practise real conversations until you can say what you want and still feel decent about yourself.
How do you choose a direction without waiting to be certain?
Certainty rarely comes first. Decisions get clearer when you separate what you fear, what you owe and what you were told to want from what genuinely draws you.
I help you weigh the real options, what each would demand and what you would learn from trying. I will give you my view and point out when you are hiding behind research. The decision stays yours.
What does it mean to build an adult life that is really yours?
It means change you can see from the outside: a rhythm to your days, work that makes some sense to you, friendships where you can be honest, and relationships you do not run from.
I help you decide what needs to change and what is already right about you. The aim is a life where your choices follow your own values, and where you feel like a man rather than a boy waiting for permission.
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What happens when you begin therapy for young men with me
You do not need to know what is wrong or how to explain it. We start from how your life looks this month.
When you start, I listen, help you name what is hardest and give our work a clear focus early on. You do not need a diagnosis or a polished story.
This work is a focused form of my psychotherapy, individual sessions on your inner life and your relationships. If a relationship is at the centre and your partner wants to come too, couples therapy gives you long-term relational development and healing together. When you already know you want a steady stretch of sessions, therapy discounts and bundles make it cheaper per session and give you a plan to hold on to.
What happens in our first session?
I ask what made you get in touch now, what a normal week looks like, what you have already tried and what you would like to be different. You do not need to start with your childhood.
Before we finish, I tell you what I see and suggest how we could work. Then you decide whether it feels right. If you prefer to talk before you commit, book a free 30-minute call first.
When is individual therapy the right choice for you?
Individual work fits when the focus is you: your direction, your confidence, your habits, your family story and the way you handle friendships and dating. We can talk about the people in your life without any of them being there.
In individual sessions, I keep the thread from week to week and hold you to what you said you wanted. For a view of how I work with every adult, Psychotherapy Copenhagen describes my individual practice as a whole.
When is couples therapy the better choice?
Couples therapy is the better choice when your relationship itself needs ongoing work: the same fights, broken trust, or a pattern where one of you chases and the other hides.
In couples sessions, I help you both see the cycle, own your part and build safer ways of being close. Couples therapy Copenhagen is long-term relational development and healing, not a quick referee for one argument.
How often should you come?
That depends on how stuck you feel, how much space your life has and how much continuity the work needs. When days have lost their shape, a fixed appointment is an anchor in itself.
I usually recommend weekly sessions at the start, then every second week once you have momentum. I will say so if we are meeting too rarely to build anything, or if it is time to space things out.
When is a bundle the right choice for you?
A bundle is right when you already know you want a run of sessions, and you would rather not decide each week whether it is worth going back. For a young man on a tight budget, that decision can easily become the reason to stop just as things start to move.
A bundle saves money and gives you the safety of a structured plan. I will help you judge whether one fits. The options are on therapy discounts and bundles.
How will we know when the work is done?
The work is done when you have more ownership of your life, a direction you trust and less need to escape it. You will still have bad weeks, but they will not knock you off course for months.
I review progress with you openly, and I am not interested in keeping you in therapy longer than you need. We can space sessions out, pause or stop. If you come back in a few years at a new crossroads, that is a sign of good sense, not failure.
How it works with me
- Book a first session online, or start with a free 30-minute call if you want to hear my voice first.
- Each appointment is one hour with 50 minutes of therapy, one to one, at my practice in central Copenhagen or online, in English or Danish. I see clients between 08:00 and 21:00 Copenhagen time on all 7 days of the week, subject to availability.
- We usually begin weekly, because a fixed point in the week helps when your days lack structure. Between sessions you test one or 2 small changes we have agreed on.
- Every few sessions, we check honestly what is moving. Then we decide whether to keep the pace, change the focus, meet less often or stop.
- Planning a longer stretch? A therapy bundle cuts the cost by 10 per cent and fixes the plan in advance. The bundle cards follow below.
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How the bundle works
- Current bundle savings are shown on the Pricing page.
- Your bundle is valid for 180 days from the date of purchase.
- The bundle can only be used for the type of session stated on your invoice.
- If you request a refund, sessions already used are recalculated at the standard single-session price.
- The administration fee applied to a bundle refund is shown on the Pricing page.
- VAT follows the type of therapy included in the bundle: VAT-exempt sessions remain VAT exempt, while VAT-liable sessions include applicable VAT.
Compare with nearby options
Wondering whether this is the right place to start? Here is how it sits next to the men’s pages closest to it.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Therapy for young men (this page) | You are in your twenties or early thirties and feel stuck, behind or unsure who you are becoming. | Weekly 1-hour sessions to begin |
| Psychotherapy for men | You are a man of any age with several things weighing on you. | 1-hour sessions at a pace that suits you |
| Therapy for lonely men | Being cut off from friends is the main thing you want to change. | A steady course of 1-hour sessions |
| Masculinity and identity therapy | Questions about what being a man means for you are at the centre. | Weekly or every second week |
Frequently asked questions
What is therapy for young men with you?
Therapy for young men with me is individual psychotherapy for men in their twenties and early thirties who feel lost, stuck or unsure of themselves as they build an adult life. Sessions are in English or Danish, at my practice or by video.
I work in depth with the whole person, including the family patterns you carry, and I stay practical. It sits within my psychotherapy for men, with a focus on the years when you are becoming the man you will be.
When should I come, if I am not sure it is serious enough?
Come when the drifting, the worry or the hiding has gone on for a few months, or when you notice you are avoiding people and plans you used to want. Your own sense that something is off is enough.
In my 22 years as a therapist, I have seen how much easier it is to change a pattern at 24 than at 44. I look at how long it has lasted, what it is costing you and whether it is spreading into new parts of your life.
Can you help if I just feel lost and behind everyone else?
Yes. Feeling lost is one of the most common reasons young men come to me, and it is workable. I cannot hand you a purpose, but I can help you find out what you actually want and take steps towards it.
In my clinical experience, the feeling of being behind usually rests on a comparison with an imagined version of everyone else. When we look at your own values and your real circumstances, the next step is often clearer than you expected.
My parents or my girlfriend think I should go. Is that a good enough reason?
It is a good enough reason to come once and see. Many young men first walk in because someone who cares about them pushed. The work only becomes useful when you find your own reason, and that often happens in the first session.
I will ask what they are worried about and what you think of it. Whatever they hope for, what we discuss stays between you and me.
Why do I try so hard to impress people, and then avoid them?
Both moves try to protect you from feeling not good enough. Impressing people keeps rejection at bay for a while. But keeping up the act is exhausting, so you cancel plans and stay home. It is a way of coping you learned somewhere, not a flaw in who you are.
I help you notice which move you make with whom, and what it costs you in real friendships. Then we practise something in between: showing up as yourself, a bit less polished and a lot more present.
What will we actually do in the first session?
We talk about your life right now: what is hardest, what a typical day looks like and what you would like to be different in 6 months. I also ask a little about your family and where you grew up. By the end, I share my first impressions and a suggested focus.
You do not need to prepare a speech. When you feel ready, book your first session or start with a free call.
How many sessions do young men usually need?
I suggest planning for around 3 months of weekly or fortnightly sessions as a first stretch. That is often enough to get your days back into shape and understand the pattern underneath. Deeper themes take longer.
Drawing on 22 years of practice, I prefer a clear first stretch with an honest review over open-ended sessions with no direction. At that point you choose with me how to go on.
Can I have sessions in English, or online when I go home for the summer?
Yes to both. I work in English and Danish, and online sessions last as long as sessions in my practice. Many students and young internationals come in person during term and switch to video when they travel. My article on international student mental health covers what studying abroad can stir up.
In person is usually better at the start, because getting yourself to an appointment is part of the work. If you moved here and adjusting to Denmark is the main struggle, therapy for expat men may suit you better.
What does therapy for young men with you cost?
Each session is a 1-hour appointment with 50 minutes of therapy, and you will find the current fee on my prices page. You receive an invoice and settle it by bank transfer.
Booking several sessions as a bundle lowers the cost by 10 per cent and gives you a fixed plan, as shown on therapy discounts and bundles. A same-day transfer from a Danish bank account takes off another 3 per cent.
How do I get started with you?
The quickest way is to book a session online. If you would like to check that I am the right person first, request a free 30-minute call.
If you cannot find a time that works, or something feels urgent, send me a message. I keep space for acute situations, usually within days. Pick a time, and let us get to work.
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My approach and values
My mission
My mission is to help individuals, couples and families rediscover connection, communicate with understanding, and build a stronger, more loving relationship that can thrive through any challenge.
My vision
My vision is to create a world where every person in my therapy room feels supported, connected, and empowered to grow, and to step one step closer to your Self.
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