Psychotherapy for men Copenhagen
A straight, steady place to deal with what you carry
I help you name what is going on and change how you live with it
- Last updated October 23, 2026
What I want men to know before they book
In this short video, I explain why so many men wait years before asking for help, and what our first sessions together are actually like.
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At a glance
Psychotherapy for men Copenhagen helps you deal with what has been building up under the surface, whether it shows as stress, a short fuse, a few more drinks than before, broken sleep or a silence at home that nobody names. It is just you and me, in 1-hour appointments with 50 minutes of therapy, in English or Danish, face to face in central Copenhagen or online.
I help you name what you feel and change the patterns behind it. This page is the men’s entrance to my psychotherapy: the general page describes the same depth of work for everyone, while this one starts from how men tend to carry and hide trouble. From here, my men’s pages go deeper into loneliness, depression, being the nice guy, anger, masculinity and identity, midlife, sexuality, relationships, fatherhood, young men and expat men.
From here you can ask for a free discovery call, book a session, read my client policy or send me a message.
Is this the right page for you?
This is for you if…
Psychotherapy for men Copenhagen is for men who have handled things on their own for years and have started to notice that it costs more than it used to. You want someone who talks straight, takes you seriously and helps you change something real.
- You are the person everyone rings when something breaks, and you honestly cannot remember the last time you rang anyone yourself.
- You train, work long days and keep busy, partly because sitting still with your own thoughts feels worse than being tired.
- You have noticed that the second beer has quietly become the third, mostly as a way to switch your head off at night.
- Your partner keeps saying you are hard to reach, and you are not sure what they want you to say or do differently.
- You wake at 4 in the morning thinking about money, work or your health, and by breakfast you act as if nothing happened.
- You have plenty of people to watch football or grab a drink with, but nobody you would call if your life fell apart.
- You snap at small things more often than you would like, and afterwards you feel a heavy mix of guilt and confusion.
- You have always sorted out problems by yourself, and the thought of seeing a therapist feels a little like admitting defeat.
This is probably not for you if…
This page is the starting point for men in general. If one theme clearly stands out for you, the page linked will help you more directly.
- Loneliness is the main problem: you have drifted from your friends and the weekends feel empty. → therapy for lonely men
- Low mood shows up as irritability, numbness or working all hours, and it has lasted for months. → depression in men
- You keep saying yes, hide what you need and end up quietly resentful of the people you help. → nice guy syndrome therapy
- Your temper has started to frighten you or the people around you, and you want to get hold of it. → anger management for men
- Desire, erections or confidence in bed are worrying you, and you want a discreet place to talk about it. → men’s sexuality therapy
- Most of the strain sits in your relationship, and you want to work on your own part in it. → therapy for men in relationships
- You are a father, and the hardest part is how you parent, or how you were parented yourself. → therapy for fathers
- You are in immediate danger, or you are thinking about ending your life. Please call 112, or 1813 for urgent mental health help in the Capital Region.
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Client reviews
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Mark’s view
“In my experience, men do not wait too long because they do not care. They wait because they are looking for a reason big enough to justify asking, and that reason usually arrives as a crisis. Underneath the waiting I hear questions like ‘If I stopped coping, would anyone even notice?’ and, right beside it, ‘Leave it with me, I will deal with it myself.’ Some men carry a third one as well: ‘I want somebody to really know me, and I will make sure nobody gets close enough to try.’ My view is simple. You do not need a crisis to deserve help. Coming while you are still standing is not weakness. It is good judgement.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
Meet Mark, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist specialising in expats and international couples. I work in English and Danish, from my practice in central Copenhagen and online.
Practising since 2004, I bring a bicultural perspective to work with individuals and couples across languages and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with approaches such as integral psychotherapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian psychoanalysis, and object relations theory. I also have specialist training in attachment theory, narcissism, and borderline personality disorder.
For support with life between cultures, explore expat psychotherapy or expat couples therapy. My practice is supported by ongoing training and supervision. To read more about my background, training, and approach, visit About me.
The importance of supervision
Good therapy begins with good supervision
I regularly meet with experienced senior psychotherapists in Denmark and abroad to reflect on my work, challenge my thinking, and continue developing my skills. This ongoing process supports the quality of my individual and couples therapy, helping me offer thoughtful, ethical, and effective care.
My focus is simple: excellence, integrity, and impact.
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A typical situation
Jonas is 38 and works as an engineer in Nordhavn. He runs 3 times a week, fixes things for the neighbours and rarely says no to anyone. Since the spring he has slept badly, and the 2 glasses of wine at dinner have become most of a bottle. His girlfriend says he is there but not there. His oldest friend moved to Aarhus, and they have not properly talked in a year. Jonas thinks he should be able to sort this out alone, and it irritates him that he cannot.
I would start with his ordinary week rather than with feelings, because that is where Jonas lives. In our first session he would probably see that the wine, the running and the helping all do the same job: they keep him from noticing how alone he has become.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
This is when you need psychotherapy for men with me
You have kept going, kept working and kept quiet, and it has stopped being enough.
There is no right moment and no right reason to start. If you have a sense that something is off or that life takes more effort than it should, that is enough. You do not need a diagnosis, a neat explanation or a breakdown before you come to see me. In 22 years of practice I have learned to recognise when a pattern has gone past ordinary pressure and needs real attention.
In sessions, I usually begin by helping you see what is actually happening, what keeps it going and what has to change. I will tell you plainly what I see. Use the 6 questions below to judge whether now is the moment to book.
Are you running on autopilot just to get through the week?
If you are, it deserves attention. You keep functioning, but there is little pleasure in it, and you count the hours until you can be alone with a screen or a drink.
I would look at how long this has lasted and what gets you through the evenings, to tell a hard season from a pattern. If this sounds familiar, book a session with me and we can look at it straight.
Do you want to be left alone, and also want someone to notice how you are?
Both can be true, because they protect different things. One part of you is proud of handling things. Another is tired and would like someone to ask, and mean it. You say ‘I am fine’, then feel hurt when people believe you. My article on hyper-independence looks at the first part more closely.
I do not treat one side as weak and the other as strong. I help you hear what each one is guarding, so you can choose when to stand alone and when to let someone in.
Does a cold reply from your partner or boss knock you off balance for days?
For many men it does, though few say so. A short text or a partner who goes quiet can set off a churning you keep to yourself. You replay what you said and try harder to be useful, and you cannot settle until things feel all right again.
Wanting to matter to the people around you is not needy, and I will not shame it. What I help you change is how quickly the alarm goes off. You practise asking directly for what you need instead of trying to earn it in silence.
Do you pull someone close and then push them away when it gets real?
That swing is common, and it confuses men as much as the people they love. You miss your partner on a work trip, then pick a fight the evening you get home. Closeness feels like what you want and like a threat in the same breath.
I help you slow the swing down so we can find the exact moment when wanting closeness turns into needing to escape. I respect why you learned to protect yourself, and I will hold you to changing the moves that hurt the people closest to you.
Do you go silent when someone wants more from you than you can give?
Many men shut down under emotional pressure, and from the outside it often looks like calm. You go factual, play it down or retreat to the bike, the workshop or the phone. The cost is that people stop knowing what goes on in you, and slowly you stop knowing too. I have written about this in struggling in silence.
My view is that your distance is doing a job, and you are entitled to space. I help you stay in the room a little longer without feeling swallowed. You learn to say ‘Give me an hour and I will come back to this’, and then actually come back.
Have you lost track of who you are outside your job and your duties?
After years of providing, performing and meeting expectations, it is easy to know your role better than yourself. Perhaps you built a life around your father’s idea of a man or your company’s idea of success, and it no longer fits. That is not a sign that you are broken. You have been adapting for a long time.
I help you look at which parts of your life are genuinely yours and which you inherited from your family and the men before you. I will challenge you when I see you shrinking to keep the peace, but I will not hand you a ready-made idea of manhood.
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What psychotherapy for men with me will help you do
Understanding why you shut down is useful, but the work also has to change how you speak, sleep, argue and decide.
Psychotherapy with me will help you understand what sits underneath the stress, the temper or the silence, see the patterns that keep it going and make changes the people around you will notice. Knowing why you withdraw, without learning to stay, rarely changes your life.
I have been a student of men’s work since 2010. Eli Buren, a dear friend and mentor, has been a central influence. I have sat in his work many times. I also draw on Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, Robert Glover, Sam Keen and David Deida. I have used this work to add to and deepen my training as a psychotherapist.
In my 22 years of practice, men tend to do well with a therapist who takes an active part. I will tell you what I see, give you things to try and challenge you when an explanation keeps you stuck. These 6 questions describe what we work towards.
How will I help you see what is really going on underneath?
I help you separate the core problem from everything that has grown around it. The short temper, the late nights and the extra drinks are real, but they are often signals rather than causes. Underneath sits something more specific: grief that never got space, a fear of failing your family, or a loneliness you have stopped noticing.
I bring structure to this. I tell you what I think is happening, what needs attention first and which stories keep you stuck, such as ‘That is just how I am’. If that sounds useful, book a session with me and we will begin there.
How can you catch the old reaction before it takes over?
You can learn to spot the early signs. Before you snap or go silent there is a sequence: a tight jaw, heat in the chest, a thought like ‘here we go again’. Once you know the first link, you have a moment in which you can choose.
In sessions, I help you slow the sequence down and look at what sets it off, what it protects and what it costs. Seeing it is not enough. We practise a different response until you can use it on an ordinary weekday evening when you are tired.
How do you steady yourself when anger, stress or panic hits?
Staying steady does not mean swallowing the feeling or acting cool. It means staying present enough to choose what you do next. Some anger tells you something true about a boundary. Some is an old alarm ringing where there is no longer any danger.
I help you notice the rise earlier and understand what your body is reacting to. We find ways of slowing it down that suit you, and you practise them between sessions. 10 minutes on most days will move you further than a single good hour with me each week.
How can you say what you need without exploding or going quiet?
Clear speech starts with knowing what you feel, what you need and what is actually yours to carry. Many men were never taught to name the feeling, so they make a joke or say nothing until it all comes out at once.
I help you find plain words that fit the size of what you feel. I will challenge you when you swallow what matters, and I will challenge you when you expect your partner or colleagues to guess. We often rehearse real conversations until you can say it plainly and stay in the room afterwards.
How do you make a big decision without freezing or bolting?
Decisions get clearer when you separate fear, duty, habit and other people’s expectations from what you actually know and want. Some men freeze and let delay decide. Others quit the job or end the relationship just to escape the tension of not knowing.
I help you look honestly at your options and what each would cost. I will give you my view and name it when you are avoiding the choice, but I will not make it for you. If the decision is about work, ageing or what the second half of your life is for, midlife crisis therapy for men goes deeper.
What does a life that fits you better actually look like?
Lasting change has to reach beyond our sessions. The real test is your Monday morning and the conversation you have been putting off. You may need firmer boundaries at work, less alcohol, or friendships where you do not always have to be the strong one.
Together we sort out what has to change and what is already fine as it is. Your drive, your loyalty and your need for solitude are not the problem, and I will not try to sand them off. Many men also find that a circle of other men helps, and therapy and men’s groups describes how the 2 can work together.
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What happens when you begin psychotherapy for men with me
You do not need the right words or a tidy story. I begin with what is happening in your life now and what you want to be different.
When you begin, I listen closely, help you name the central difficulty and give the work a clear direction. You do not need a diagnosis or your history in order. We start where you are, which for many men is ‘I am not really sure why I am here’.
Psychotherapy for men is a focused form of my structured individual work on your inner life and your relationships. If the main trouble is between you and your partner, and your partner is willing, couples therapy offers long-term relational development and healing. For longer work, my therapy discounts and bundles give you real savings and a plan we agree on.
What happens in our first session together?
In our first session, I ask what made you book now, what is hardest at the moment, what you have already tried and what you want to be different. I ask about work, sleep, drinking and friendships, because that is usually where the story is.
By the end, I give you my first honest read of what is going on and suggest a direction. If you would rather talk before committing, request a free 30-minute discovery call.
When is individual psychotherapy the right choice for you as a man?
Individual work is right when the focus is you: your moods, your reactions, your history, your sense of yourself as a man and the way you handle work and people. We can look at your relationships in depth without anyone else in the room.
In individual sessions, I give you direction, continuity and honest challenge from one week to the next. If you want to see how I work with everyone, not only men, Psychotherapy Copenhagen describes my individual work as a whole.
When is couples therapy the better choice for you?
Choose couples therapy when the relationship as a whole needs work over time. If the same argument keeps coming back, if trust has been broken, or if you feel more like flatmates than partners, working on it together usually achieves more.
In couples work, I help you both see the cycle between you, take responsibility for your own part and build steadier ways of being together. Couples therapy Copenhagen is long-term relational development and healing.
How often should you come, and for how long?
The right pace depends on how heavy things are, how much room you have in your life and how much continuity the work needs.
I usually suggest we begin every week or every other week. I will tell you straight when the pace should change. If your work schedule is tight, back-to-back psychotherapy lets us do several sessions over a few days.
When is a bundle of sessions the sensible choice?
A bundle makes sense when you already expect several sessions and want continuity, rather than asking yourself after each appointment whether it is worth going back. For many men, that question is exactly where the work quietly stops.
A bundle lowers the cost and gives you the safety of a plan. Have a look at the options on therapy discounts and bundles.
How will we know when therapy has done its job?
Therapy has done its job when you have more choice in how you respond, more honesty in your relationships and less need to numb yourself to get through the week. The old pattern may still turn up, but it no longer runs the show.
I review progress with you openly, and I do not encourage dependency or therapy without an end. Returning a year or 2 later with a fresh problem is not a sign that anything failed.
How it works with me
- Start with a free 30-minute call, or go straight to booking your first session.
- Your first appointment lasts one hour with 50 minutes of therapy, just the 2 of us, at Møntergade 4 in central Copenhagen or online, in English or Danish. I see clients from 08:00 to 21:00 Copenhagen time, 7 days a week, subject to availability.
- In the first months we usually meet weekly or every second week. Between sessions you try out what we agree on.
- Every few sessions, we take honest stock of what has shifted and what has not. Then we decide together whether to keep the pace, narrow the focus to one theme, space the sessions out or finish.
- If you expect to come for a while, a therapy bundle saves you 10 per cent and gives the work a clear frame from day one. The bundles are shown just below.
Save with a prepaid session bundle
How the bundle works
- Current bundle savings are shown on the Pricing page.
- Your bundle is valid for 180 days from the date of purchase.
- The bundle can only be used for the type of session stated on your invoice.
- If you request a refund, sessions already used are recalculated at the standard single-session price.
- The administration fee applied to a bundle refund is shown on the Pricing page.
- VAT follows the type of therapy included in the bundle: VAT-exempt sessions remain VAT exempt, while VAT-liable sessions include applicable VAT.
Compare with nearby options
Not sure where to start? Here is how this page compares with the 3 men’s pages people ask about most.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Psychotherapy for men (this page) | Several things are weighing on you, or you cannot yet name what is wrong. | Weekly 1-hour sessions at first |
| Depression in men | Low mood shows up as irritability, numbness or overwork and has lasted for months. | A steady weekly course |
| Therapy for men in relationships | The strain is mostly in how you are with your partner. | 1-hour sessions on your own |
| Anger management for men | Your temper is doing damage you want to stop. | Sessions close together at first |
Frequently asked questions
What is psychotherapy for men with you?
Psychotherapy for men with me is individual psychotherapy for men who want to understand and change what is weighing on them. It starts from how men tend to carry and hide difficulty. You can have it in English or Danish, in my rooms in central Copenhagen or by video.
I work integratively, with the whole person rather than the symptom, including what you inherited from the generations before you. You can start here even if you cannot yet name the problem.
When should I come to you rather than keep handling it myself?
Come when the way you cope has started to cost you sleep, relationships, health or joy, or when the people close to you keep telling you something is wrong. Your own sense that things are not right is reason enough.
After 22 years of practice, I look at how long it has been going on and what you are using to keep it down. My article on why men often do not talk about their feelings describes that pattern in more detail.
Can therapy really help if I am not much of a talker?
Yes. Many of the men I see say the same. I do not offer quick fixes, but I can promise a conversation that is direct and has a purpose.
In my clinical experience, men often talk most easily about something concrete: last Tuesday, the argument in the car, the drink they did not need. The men’s communities, or mandefællesskaber, that have grown up across Denmark have found something similar: many men open up most easily side by side, while doing something together. We can start with facts and let the feelings follow.
My partner wants me to go. Is that a bad reason to start?
No. Being pushed through the door by a partner, a friend or a family member is one of the most common ways men arrive, and the work can still become entirely yours.
In the first session, I will ask what your partner sees and what you see. If it turns out the relationship itself is the main issue, therapy for men in relationships or couples therapy may suit you better, and I will say so.
Why do I go quiet in an argument, and then blow up later?
Both are ways of trying to stay safe when feelings run high. Going quiet keeps the peace for a while, but what is not said builds up and comes out as a burst that surprises you too. It is usually something you learned early, in a family where feelings were dangerous or ignored.
I help you notice which way you move under pressure and what it costs. Then we practise steadier options: naming what you feel early, taking a break without disappearing and coming back to finish the conversation.
What do we actually talk about the first time?
We start with your life as it is now. I ask about what brought you, how it shows up at work and at home, what you do to cope and what you would like to be different. I also ask about your family, because much of how a man handles pressure is learned there.
There is nothing to prepare, and no right way to put it. Not knowing where to begin is a fine place to start. Whenever it suits you, book a first appointment or start with a free discovery call.
How many sessions will I need?
My recommendation is to plan for a course of sessions over a few months, rather than a single conversation. That is often enough to understand your pattern and start changing it. Patterns from childhood usually take longer.
After 22 years of practice, my preference is a clear first stretch with an honest review, not months of drifting.
Should I come in person, or can we do this online?
Come in person if you can. For many men, the walk to my practice and sitting in a real room with another man become part of the work. Online sessions work well too if you travel for work or live outside Copenhagen, and they last just as long.
I offer both, in English or Danish. If you cannot decide, we can settle it on a free call before you book.
What does psychotherapy for men with you cost?
Sessions are booked as 1-hour appointments with 50 minutes of therapy, and the current price is on my prices page. You pay by invoice and bank transfer.
If you expect several sessions, a bundle saves you 10 per cent and gives you a structured plan, and you can find the options on therapy discounts and bundles. Paying the same day from a Danish bank account saves you a further 3 per cent.
How do I book my first session with you?
Go straight to booking your first session, or ask for a free 30-minute discovery call if you would rather talk first.
If none of the times suit you, or things feel acute right now, contact me directly. Some of my time is kept free for acute cases, so a slot within days is usually possible. Then book, and we begin.
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My mission
My mission is to help individuals, couples and families rediscover connection, communicate with understanding, and build a stronger, more loving relationship that can thrive through any challenge.
My vision
My vision is to create a world where every person in my therapy room feels supported, connected, and empowered to grow, and to step one step closer to your Self.
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