Disorganised attachment therapy Copenhagen
Help when you long for closeness and fear it at the same time
I help you make sense of the push and pull, and find steadier ground
- Last updated October 23, 2026
What I want you to know about wanting and fearing closeness
In this short video, I explain why wanting someone close and needing to escape them can live side by side in you, and how we work with both sides without forcing either.
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At a glance
Disorganised attachment therapy Copenhagen helps you when closeness feels both necessary and dangerous, and your reactions in relationships swing in ways that frighten or confuse you. You come on your own, for 1-hour appointments with 50 minutes of therapy, in English or Danish, at my practice in central Copenhagen or online, and we keep the pace steady so closeness to me does not become another thing to fear.
I help you slow down the moments when longing turns into alarm, understand where that double signal began and build enough inner safety to stay with yourself when someone gets close. This work is one strand of my attachment therapy, within my wider psychotherapy. If you mostly chase reassurance, anxious attachment therapy may fit you better, and if you mostly keep people at a distance, avoidant attachment therapy.
If part of you wants to start and part of you wants to run, a free discovery call is a gentle first step, or you can book a session directly. My client policy tells you exactly what to expect, and you can write to me with any question first.
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This is for you if…
Disorganised attachment therapy Copenhagen is for adults who want closeness and fear it at the same time. When someone starts to matter, you may find a confusing mix of longing, alarm and shutting down rising in you. You want to understand what happens inside you and to feel steadier with the people you love.
- You feel drawn to someone intensely, and the moment they move closer you feel an urge to run or to pick a fight.
- You send a warm, open message late at night, then wake up wishing you could take every word of it back.
- You can go from “please do not leave me” to “just go” within a single evening, and it scares you as much as them.
- You sometimes go blank or numb in the middle of an argument, as if you have left your body and lost your words.
- You expect the people you love to hurt you sooner or later, so even good moments feel like a trap about to close.
- You test partners and friends without quite meaning to, then feel ashamed and alone when they finally pull back.
- You grew up close to someone who could be loving one moment and frightening the next, and part of you still braces.
- You have read about attachment online, recognised yourself in several descriptions at once and come away more confused.
This is probably not for you if…
The push and pull of closeness can look like several other patterns. When one of the situations below sounds closer to yours, the linked page will be a better place to begin.
- You mostly worry about being left, and you reach for reassurance far more often than you pull away. → anxious attachment therapy
- You mostly keep people at arm’s length, and closeness feels more tiring than frightening. → avoidant attachment therapy
- Flashbacks, nightmares or memories of what happened when you were young are what you most want help with. → childhood trauma therapy
- You look after everyone else’s feelings so carefully that you lose track of your own. → codependency and people pleasing therapy
- You want to look at attachment in your life more broadly, without one pattern standing out. → attachment therapy
- The swings happen mainly in one relationship, and your partner is willing to come with you. → couples therapy
- Something has just happened, and you need help this week rather than next month. → acute psychotherapy
- You are in immediate danger, or you are thinking about ending your life. Please call 112, or 1813 for urgent mental health help in the Capital Region.
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Mark’s view
“Over more than 15,000 clinical hours, I have learned that people who both crave and dread closeness are usually far harder on themselves than anyone else is. They call themselves chaotic, too much or impossible to love. I disagree. When the person you needed was also the person you feared, swinging between reaching out and running away was the most intelligent thing a young nervous system could do. Underneath, you may be asking ‘If I show you the worst of me, will you stay?’ and, almost in the same breath, ‘Can I just get through this on my own?’. Some nights it becomes one sentence: ‘Hold on to me, and do not come near me.’ The swing is not a flaw in you. It is an old solution that has outlived its time.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
Meet Mark, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist specialising in expats and international couples. I work in English and Danish, from my practice in central Copenhagen and online.
Practising since 2004, I bring a bicultural perspective to work with individuals and couples across languages and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with approaches such as integral psychotherapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian psychoanalysis, and object relations theory. I also have specialist training in attachment theory, narcissism, and borderline personality disorder.
For support with life between cultures, explore expat psychotherapy or expat couples therapy. My practice is supported by ongoing training and supervision. To read more about my background, training, and approach, visit About me.
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A typical situation
Diego is 38, a sound engineer from Valencia who has lived in Copenhagen for 6 years. When a relationship begins, he is warm, funny and completely in. Around the third month, something shifts. He reads a short text from his girlfriend as coldness, sends 4 messages in a row, then turns his phone off for 2 days. When she asks what happened, his mind goes blank. He has started to believe he ruins everything good, and he no longer knows which of his reactions to trust.
I would start with one recent evening, taken slowly, moment by moment, rather than with his whole history. In our first session, Diego would probably see that the alarm and the shutdown arrive within the same few seconds, before he has had a single clear thought. That gives us a place to begin: the small gap between the signal and the reaction.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
This is when you need disorganised attachment therapy with me
You have tried hard to love and be loved without falling apart, and the same storm keeps coming back.
There is no single right moment or right reason to begin this work. If you sense that something goes wrong in you whenever someone matters, that your relationships keep ending in the same bewildering way, or that daily life is harder because of it, that is enough. You do not need a diagnosis, a label from the internet or a crisis before you come to see me. In more than 22 years of practice, I have learned to recognise this push and pull quickly, and I can tell when it has become a pattern that needs professional attention rather than more willpower.
In sessions, I usually begin by mapping with you what actually happens, second by second, when closeness rises. I will tell you plainly what I see, what keeps the pattern alive and what needs to change. The 6 questions below can help you decide whether it is time to book.
Are your relationships leaving you drained after every high and low?
If they are, that matters. When closeness sets off alarm, ordinary moments cost you an enormous amount of energy. A partner arriving late, a friend going quiet or a colleague’s offhand remark can send you into hours of churning, followed by a heavy flatness the next day. You cancel plans to recover, struggle to concentrate at work after a hard weekend and feel that you are always either in a storm or bracing for the next one.
I would look with you at how often this happens, what reliably sets it off and how long it takes you to come back to yourself afterwards. Those 3 things show me whether you are going through a rough patch or living with a pattern that keeps repeating whatever you do. If this sounds like your life, book a session with me and we can start to untangle it.
Do you want to be held and want to escape in the same moment?
Yes, and both wishes are real, because they serve different needs. One part of you longs to be close, known and comforted. Another part learned long ago that closeness is where hurt comes from, and it reacts to tenderness as if it were a threat. Because both fire together, you may reach out and recoil in a single gesture: inviting someone over and then starting an argument, or saying “I love you” and feeling sick with fear a moment later.
Neither side is the healthy one and neither is the problem. In our work, each gets a hearing. We give these parts of you a voice and listen to what each is trying to do for you. The frightened part usually turns out to be guarding something precious. Once you know what each side protects, you can begin to choose, rather than being thrown from one to the other.
Do you read rejection into small changes and then brace for disaster?
Many people with this pattern do, and it happens fast. A slower reply, a flatter tone or a partner who seems distracted can feel less like a passing moment and more like the first sign of being left or hurt. You replay the conversation, hunt for clues, ask for reassurance and cannot settle. Unlike ordinary worry, the alarm may then tip into anger or a sudden wish to end things first, before they can end them for you.
Wanting to know where you stand is reasonable, and I will never treat it as weakness. The trouble is how quickly the alarm takes over. Together we notice the first signs that it is rising, name what you actually need in that moment and practise asking for it directly, so fear stops choosing your response for you. My article on the push and pull in relationships describes what this looks like from both sides.
Do you chase connection and then push it away once you have it?
For many people this is the heart of the pattern, and it baffles them as much as anyone. When someone pulls back, you pursue: messages, apologies, a sudden urgency to fix things. When they come close again, you feel crowded, suspicious or flooded, and you withdraw or lash out. Sometimes you simply freeze. Then the distance becomes unbearable, and the whole cycle begins again, sometimes several times in one week.
In sessions, we take one real episode and go through it frame by frame, looking for the point where reaching out flips into getting away. There is nearly always a specific trigger: a look, a request, a sense of being trapped or a sudden fear of being seen too clearly. I will not judge the parts of you that protect you this way. I will, though, hold you to account for the moves that leave other people hurt, and help you find ones that do less damage. Over time, enough safety builds for your choices to become more consistent.
Do you shut down or go numb when someone needs too much from you?
Often, yes. When feelings in the room become intense, or someone asks for more than you can give in that moment, your system may simply switch off. You go quiet, foggy or oddly calm, or you become very practical and talk about logistics. Some people describe feeling far away, as if watching themselves from across the room. It protects you, but the other person usually experiences it as coldness or rejection.
I see the shutdown as a form of protection, not a failing, and I will treat it that way. I help you understand what it shields you from, notice it coming a little earlier and remain in contact for a few more moments without feeling overrun. You learn to say “I need a pause, and I will come back” before the switch-off hardens into a wall. There is nothing wrong with needing a break. The damage comes when the break has no explanation and no return.
Have you lost track of which of your reactions is really you?
After years of swinging between closeness and escape, it is common to lose sight of who you are underneath. Depending on the day, you may see yourself as difficult, dramatic or cold, and believe the people who called you those things. You may have shaped yourself around whoever you were with, then felt hollow when they left. None of this means your core is damaged. It shows how much of your energy has gone into surviving relationships rather than living in them.
I help you separate the reactions you learned in order to cope from the values, wishes and qualities that are genuinely yours. Part of this is getting curious about the home you grew up in and what was passed down to you without words. I will give you my honest view and push back when you turn against yourself. What I will not do is tell you who to be. The aim is a clearer sense of who you are when you are not on guard, what matters to you and which relationships actually suit you.
If the push and pull sounds familiar, request a free call to talk it over, or book a session if you are ready to begin.
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What disorganised attachment therapy with me will help you do
Understanding why closeness frightens you is a start, but the work also has to change what you do when someone you love comes near.
This work will help you understand what happens inside you when closeness rises, recognise the sequence that turns longing into alarm and change how you act in the moments that count. Many people arrive having read a great deal about attachment. That knowledge can be a relief, yet knowing the name of a pattern seldom stops it from running your evenings.
In my more than 22 years of experience, this pattern shifts when the therapist is steady, present and active. I will not sit back and wait for you to find your way. I will guide the sessions, tell you what I notice as it happens between us and question the stories that keep you stuck. The 6 questions below describe what we work towards.
How will I help you see what is really driving the push and pull?
I help you tell the centre of the problem apart from the noise around it. The arguments, the silent days and the messages you regret are real and painful, but they are mostly consequences. Underneath them there is usually a small number of powerful beliefs and fears: that love always comes with danger, that you will be too much or not enough, that you must strike first to stay safe. Once these are visible, the chaos starts to show an order.
My role is to bring order to this. I give you my assessment, point to what needs attention first and question the explanations that keep you stuck, such as “I just ruin things”. Because this pattern often lives in the body before it reaches words, I pay attention to your breathing, posture and voice as well as to what you say. When you are ready, book a session with me and we will begin to map it together.
How can you catch the switch before it flips?
You can learn to notice it earlier, and that is where real change begins. The switch from longing to alarm feels instant, but it rarely is. There is usually a chain: a flicker of hope, a tightening in the chest, a sudden suspicious thought, an urge to grab your phone or leave the room. When you can recognise the first link, you gain a few seconds in which a different choice becomes possible.
In sessions, we take recent moments apart slowly and name what set them off, what the reaction was protecting and what it cost you. Seeing the chain is not enough on its own. We practise a different response, first in the room with me and then between sessions, until it is something you can actually reach for at 11 at night when a message lands.
How can you settle yourself when closeness floods you?
Settling yourself does not mean forcing calm, hiding what you feel or acting as if the person in front of you does not matter. It means staying present enough to know what is happening and to choose how you respond. With this pattern, that often starts with learning the difference between 2 kinds of overwhelm: the hot rush that pushes you to act and the cold drop that takes you away.
Together we learn to spot the first signs of being flooded and work out what your body is actually responding to, which is often an old memory rather than a present danger. We find simple, specific ways of slowing the reaction and coming back to yourself. I will be clear with you that this only works if you practise between sessions, in small, regular doses, on good days as well as bad ones.
How can you ask for closeness or space without a storm?
Before you can say it clearly, you need to know which feeling is speaking, what you need and what is yours to handle, and this pattern scrambles all of that in seconds. You may ask for reassurance in a way that sounds like an accusation, ask for space by slamming a door, or say nothing at all and hope the other person understands. Unspoken needs then come out sideways, and the people you love are left confused about what you want.
I help you find words that are honest, specific and in proportion to the moment, such as “I got scared when you went quiet” or “I need an hour, and then I want to talk”. I push back in both directions: when you go silent to keep the peace, and when you expect someone else to settle every storm inside you. We often rehearse real conversations until they feel possible.
How can you decide about a relationship when every feeling says something different?
Clearer decisions become possible when you can separate fear, guilt, habit and other people’s expectations from what you actually know and value. With this pattern, the answer to “stay or go” can change several times a day, depending on whether you feel close or threatened. Acting on the latest feeling, in either direction, usually leads to regret.
I help you look at your options when you are steady rather than flooded, and to weigh what each one would really ask of you. I will give you my professional view and say so when I see you avoiding the question or rushing it. The decision stays yours. If one relationship is where everything plays out and your partner will not come, couples therapy alone lets you work on it from your side.
What does a relationship feel like when closeness is no longer an emergency?
The change that counts happens in your actual life. The real test is an ordinary Sunday with someone you love, a disagreement that ends in repair rather than days of silence, or a moment of tenderness you can simply receive. You may need different boundaries, a slower pace when you start dating, clearer agreements about time apart, or more people around you who are steady themselves.
Together we sort out what really has to change and what can stay. Your sensitivity, your intensity and your hunger for real contact are not the problem, and we are not trying to remove them. The aim is enough inner steadiness that your choices follow your values instead of your alarm. For many people, that is the ground on which building secure attachment becomes possible.
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What happens when you begin disorganised attachment therapy with me
You do not need to know your attachment style or tell your story in order. I begin with what is happening in your relationships now.
From our first meeting, I pay close attention, help you name what is hardest and set a clear direction for the work. You do not need a diagnosis, a quiz result or a tidy account of your childhood. We usually start with the most recent time the push and pull took hold, because the present tends to show the pattern more clearly than any theory.
This work belongs to my psychotherapy practice as structured individual work, and to my wider attachment therapy. If the storm lives mainly between you and one partner, and they are willing to join you, couples therapy offers long-term relational development and healing. If you already sense the work will take a while, therapy discounts and bundles let you commit to a planned course at a lower price per session, which many people with this pattern find steadying in itself.
What happens in our first session?
In our first session, I ask what brought you to me now, what happens in your relationships once they start to matter, what you have already tried and what you most want to be different. I may ask you to walk me through one recent evening in detail. You do not need to give me your whole life story for useful work to start.
Before we finish, I share my first understanding of the pattern and suggest a direction for the work. Then you decide whether my way of working feels right for you. Trust is often the hardest part of this, so take the time you need. If you want to talk before committing, request a free 30-minute discovery call.
When is individual therapy the right choice for this pattern?
Individual work is the right choice when the push and pull lives mainly in you: in your body, your history, your sense of yourself and the way you react whenever anyone gets close. That is true for most people with this pattern, whether they are single, dating or in a long relationship. We can explore your relationships in depth without anyone else needing to be in the room.
The pattern was formed in relationship, and it tends to soften in a steady one. In individual work, I offer you that steadiness, along with direction, continuity and honest challenge from one session to the next. For the wider picture of how I work with individuals, see my page on psychotherapy in Copenhagen.
When is couples therapy a better choice than working on this alone?
Couples therapy is the better choice when the relationship itself needs sustained attention and your partner wants to take part. If your swings have become a cycle between you, where each move sets off the other person’s fear, or if trust has been damaged in the storms, working on it together often reaches further than working alone.
In couples work, I help you both see the cycle you are caught in, own your share of it and build more secure ways of reaching for each other. That is far more than settling one argument. Couples therapy Copenhagen is long-term relational development and healing. Some people start on their own and bring their partner in once they feel steadier.
How often should you come for this work?
The right pace depends on how strong the swings are, how much capacity you have right now and how much continuity the work needs. With this pattern, continuity matters more than usual, because a long gap can feel like being dropped and a sudden burst of sessions can feel like too much closeness.
My recommendation is to begin weekly, at a steady, predictable time, and to keep that rhythm for a good stretch. I will tell you honestly if sessions are too far apart for trust to build, if a period of closer sessions would help after a difficult event, or when the work is ready to become less frequent. Back-to-back sessions over a few days are possible, but I rarely suggest them at the start of this work.
When does a bundle make sense for this work?
A bundle makes sense when you already know the work will take several sessions and you want a commitment that does not depend on how you feel this week. This pattern often brings an urge to quit just as things start to matter. A planned course takes that decision off the table, protects time in your calendar and lets the work with me become a steady place to practise.
A bundle saves you 10 per cent and gives the work a clear, agreed frame. If you are unsure whether it fits the likely scope, we can talk it through. You can compare the options on therapy discounts and bundles or in the bundle cards below.
How will we know when the work has done its job?
The work has done its job when you have more ownership, clarity and choice, and when the swings have changed enough that you no longer need the same level of support. Closeness may still stir you up at times, but it no longer decides whether you fight, flee or vanish. You recognise the alarm, and you know what to do with it.
We look at progress together, regularly and honestly. I am not interested in keeping you in therapy longer than it helps. Endings matter a great deal with this pattern, so we plan them together rather than letting them happen by drift or by rupture. Sessions can become less frequent, pause or stop. If a new relationship or a loss stirs the old swings again and you return, that is not a sign the first round of work failed.
How it works with me
- Start with a free 30-minute call, or book your first session. Tell me briefly what tends to happen when someone gets close, so I can check that this is the right place for you to start.
- The first session is a 1-hour appointment with 50 minutes of therapy, one to one, in English or Danish. You choose between my practice at Møntergade 4 in central Copenhagen and an online session, at a time between 08:00 and 21:00 Copenhagen time, any day of the week, subject to availability.
- We usually meet weekly at a regular time, because a predictable rhythm is part of what helps this pattern settle. Between sessions, you practise noticing the switch and responding differently.
- Every few sessions, we review what has shifted in your relationships and in you. We decide together whether to keep the pace, space the sessions out or plan an ending.
- Because this work usually takes a while, many people choose a therapy bundle, which saves 10 per cent and sets a clear plan from the start. The bundles are shown just below.
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How the bundle works
- Current bundle savings are shown on the Pricing page.
- Your bundle is valid for 180 days from the date of purchase.
- The bundle can only be used for the type of session stated on your invoice.
- If you request a refund, sessions already used are recalculated at the standard single-session price.
- The administration fee applied to a bundle refund is shown on the Pricing page.
- VAT follows the type of therapy included in the bundle: VAT-exempt sessions remain VAT exempt, while VAT-liable sessions include applicable VAT.
Compare with nearby options
Not sure this is the right place to start? Here is how it compares with the options people caught in a push and pull most often weigh up.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Disorganised attachment therapy (this page) | You want closeness and fear it, and your reactions swing between reaching out and shutting down. | Weekly 1-hour sessions at a steady rhythm |
| Attachment therapy | You want to understand your attachment patterns broadly, without one style standing out. | 1-hour sessions at a pace you choose |
| Anxious attachment therapy | Fear of being left drives you, and you reach for reassurance far more than you pull away. | Weekly 1-hour sessions at first |
| Avoidant attachment therapy | You keep people at a distance, and closeness tires you more than it frightens you. | Weekly or fortnightly 1-hour sessions |
Frequently asked questions
What is disorganised attachment therapy with you?
Disorganised attachment therapy with me is individual psychotherapy for adults who long for closeness and feel threatened by it at the same time, so that their reactions in relationships swing between pursuing, withdrawing and freezing. It helps you understand where that double signal comes from, catch it earlier and respond with more choice. You can work with me in English or Danish, face to face in central Copenhagen or online, and some people with this pattern find a screen easier at first.
I work in depth and with the whole person: your emotions, your body, the different parts of you and what was passed down in your family. This page is one part of my attachment therapy, which in turn belongs to my psychotherapy.
When should I come to you about this push and pull?
Come when the swings are costing you relationships, sleep, work or self-respect, or when you notice yourself avoiding closeness altogether because it feels too risky. You do not need to wait until a relationship has ended badly. If you sense that the same storm keeps returning, that is reason enough.
In more than 22 years of practice, I have learned to look at how quickly the alarm rises, how long it takes you to recover and whether you can repair afterwards. If the pattern has repeated across several relationships, it deserves proper attention. Many people first meet it online under the name “fearful avoidant”, and my article on this pattern in relationships explains it in more depth.
Can someone like me ever feel safe in a relationship?
Yes, many people come to feel far safer, though I cannot promise how much or how fast it will change. This pattern was learned in relationships, and it can be relearned in them, slowly, through repeated experiences of closeness that do not end in harm. I do not offer quick fixes. I offer steady, serious work at the roots.
In my clinical experience, the turning point often comes when people stop trying to become permanently calm and start trusting that they can return to themselves after being thrown. With you, I would focus on that return: how you come back after a storm, and how to make the way back shorter each time.
What if I find it hard to trust you too?
That is very common, and it is welcome in the room. If closeness has been dangerous, the closeness of therapy will stir the same alarm. You may want to cancel after a good session, or feel suspicious when I am kind. None of that means therapy is failing.
I will not take it personally, and I will not pretend it is not happening. When it shows up, we look at it together, gently and directly, because it is the pattern happening live, where we can actually work with it. Over time, many people find that being able to say “I nearly did not come today” is itself a change.
Why do I pull people close and then push them away?
Because the need for comfort and the need for protection are firing at once. When the people you once relied on were also the people who frightened or confused you, those needs became tangled together. Closeness switches on hope and alarm in the same instant. Pursuing, withdrawing and freezing are all attempts to stay safe. You are not broken for doing this.
I help you recognise which move you make under which kind of pressure, what each move is trying to achieve and what it costs you and the people around you. Then we build steadier options: asking for contact clearly, taking space without vanishing and staying in the room when a conversation gets hard.
What do you focus on when we first meet?
I focus on what is happening now. I ask what the push and pull looks like in your current or most recent relationship, when it is strongest and what you have tried. I will ask a little about your family, but you decide how much to say and when. Before you leave, I tell you how I understand the push and pull in you and where I suggest we start.
You do not need to prepare, and you do not need to arrive calm. Some people with this pattern come in guarded, or nearly do not come at all, and we can start right there. Whenever you are ready, you can book a first appointment or start with a free discovery call.
How long does this kind of work usually take?
My recommendation is to think in months rather than weeks. A pattern that formed early and protects you from real fear does not shift in a handful of conversations, and trust in the therapy itself needs time to grow. Shorter work can help you understand the pattern and reduce the worst storms. Deeper change in how you relate usually takes longer.
Based on more than 22 years of practice, I suggest committing to a clear first stretch of weekly sessions and then reviewing it honestly together. We look at what has changed in your relationships and in you, and you decide with me whether to continue, space the sessions out or stop.
Is it better to meet in person or online for this?
I recommend meeting in person if you can, because sitting in the same room lets us notice small shifts in your body and between us as they happen. Online sessions work well too, especially if you live outside Copenhagen or travel often, and some people find the screen helps them feel less exposed at first. Online sessions last just as long.
Either way, it is the same individual psychotherapy, in English or Danish, and you can switch formats if your life changes. If you cannot decide, raise it on a free call and we will choose together.
What does this therapy cost?
Individual psychotherapy with me is booked as 1-hour appointments, each with 50 minutes of therapy. The current price is on my prices page. I send you an invoice, and you pay by bank transfer.
If you expect a longer course, which is usual for this work, a bundle saves you 10 per cent and gives you a structured plan to lean on. The options are on therapy discounts and bundles. Paying the same day from a Danish bank account saves a further 3 per cent.
How do I start working with you on this?
Book your first session directly, or request a free 30-minute discovery call if you want to speak with me before deciding. A sentence or two about what happens when someone gets close is plenty.
If nothing in the calendar fits, or things feel acute right now, contact me directly. I hold some room for urgent situations, usually a time within days. When you are ready, book. The first step is often the hardest, and you will not take the next ones alone.
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