This short video is about working through an affair on your own, whether you were the one betrayed or the one who strayed.
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Infidelity therapy alone Copenhagen is one-to-one support for a single person dealing with an affair: because you discovered it, because you had it, or because your partner refuses to come. Your partner is not in the room. We meet for an hour at a time, in English or Danish, in person at my practice in central Copenhagen or online.
It sits under couples therapy alone Copenhagen. If you and your partner want to come together, see couples therapy after infidelity. If you are an international partner living in Denmark, see expat infidelity therapy alone. My articles on infidelity may help between sessions.
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Infidelity therapy alone is for one person, in or near Copenhagen or online, who is dealing with an affair and wants to work on it on their own.
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“Since my first client in 2004, I have seen how lonely an affair can be for each person in it. People who were betrayed often ask ‘How could I not have known?’, and people who strayed ask ‘If anyone knew the whole truth, would they still want me?’. Working with that question on your own, at your own pace, often steadies everything else.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist specialising in expats and international couples. I work in English and Danish, from my practice in central Copenhagen and online.
Practising since 2004, I bring a bicultural perspective to work with individuals and couples across languages and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with approaches such as integral psychotherapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian psychoanalysis, and object relations theory. I also have specialist training in attachment theory, narcissism, and borderline personality disorder.
For support with life between cultures, explore expat psychotherapy or expat couples therapy. My practice is supported by ongoing training and supervision. To read more about my background, training, and approach, visit About me.
I regularly meet with experienced senior psychotherapists in Denmark and abroad to reflect on my work, challenge my thinking, and continue developing my skills. This ongoing process supports the quality of my individual and couples therapy, helping me offer thoughtful, ethical, and effective care.
My focus is simple: excellence, integrity, and impact.
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Henrik is 46, married with three children, and ended a year-long affair two months ago. His wife does not know. He cannot sleep, snaps at the children and keeps rehearsing a confession he never makes. He does not want couples therapy until he knows what he will say.
In our sessions, Henrik first gets his sleep and temper back under control. Then he looks honestly at why the affair began and what he wants now. He decides to tell his wife, plans how, and later they book couples sessions together.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
Sometimes the first repair after an affair is repairing your own footing.
An affair does not only happen to a relationship. It happens to each person in it, and each of you may need somewhere private to fall apart and put yourself back together.
Here you can say what you cannot yet say at home.
Discovering an affair can bring intrusive images, sleepless nights and an urge to check every phone and receipt.
We work first on calming your body and mind, so you can function again.
If you had the affair, you may be torn between confessing, ending it quietly or leaving. Each choice has consequences.
We think them through honestly, before you act.
Your partner may say therapy is pointless, or that it is your problem to fix.
You can still work on your part, and sometimes that is what changes their mind.
Many people tell no one: out of shame, to protect the children, or because friends are shared.
These sessions can be that one safe place.
An affair can shake your sense of who you are: as a partner, a parent, a decent person.
We look at that with care, without either excusing or condemning.
Some days you are sure you will stay; the next day you are sure you will go.
We slow that swing down until you can hear what you actually want.
If you see yourself here, book an hour or send me a few lines. You do not need to know what you want yet.
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Your footing first. Then your thinking. Then your decision.
We work with the shock or the guilt, the questions you cannot stop asking and the decision that lies ahead, from your side only.
We start with sleep, eating, work and the people around you. A steadier body makes clearer thinking possible.
Yes. We look at what the checking gives you and what it costs, and find other ways to feel safe enough to stop.
Yes. Guilt can be useful when it leads to honest responsibility. Shame mostly leads to hiding. We work towards the first.
Yes. Whether you were betrayed and want to confront, or had the affair and are thinking of confessing, we plan what to say, when and how.
Yes. We weigh the relationship, the children, money and your own wellbeing one by one, so the decision is yours and not panic’s.
For most people, it means sleeping again, thinking clearly and knowing which way they want to go.
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You do not need your partner’s permission, or a plan. You only need to come.
In the first hour, I ask what has happened, how you are coping and what weighs on you most right now. If another kind of help would suit you better, I will tell you.
It is calm and private. You tell me as much as you want, and you leave with one or two steps for the coming days.
The starting point differs. If you were betrayed, we often begin with shock and trust. If you had the affair, we often begin with honesty and choices. Both lead to the same question: what do you want now?
Yes, if you both want that. Some people later move on to couples therapy after infidelity with their partner.
Often weekly in the first weeks, then every two weeks as things settle.
If you expect several sessions, a bundle sets a plan and lowers the price of each hour. See the bundle cards further down.
The images and the guilt lose their grip, you feel more like yourself and the next step is clear. Then we decide together whether to continue.
Weighing your options? These are the closest pages.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Infidelity therapy alone (this page) | You come on your own after an affair. | 1 hour, weekly at first |
| Couples therapy after infidelity | You and your partner come together. | 2-hour sessions |
| Expat infidelity therapy alone | You are an international partner in Denmark. | 1-hour individual sessions |
| Couples therapy alone | The affair is not the main problem. | 1-hour individual sessions |
One-to-one support for a person dealing with an affair, from either side. Sessions are one hour, in English or Danish, in person in central Copenhagen or online.
No. I see people who were betrayed, people who had the affair and people who are not sure what their part was.
Yes. You can still understand what happened, steady yourself and decide what you want, even if your partner stays away.
That is your decision. I help you think through what telling, or not telling, would mean for you, your partner and any children.
No. I help you see your options clearly. The choice stays with you.
Yes. I work in English and Danish, and sessions can be in person in central Copenhagen or online.
No. I take the affair seriously, and I take you seriously. Both are possible at once.
It varies. Some people need a handful of sessions around the first months, others want support for longer. We review together.
A 1-hour session costs 1,550 DKK and is VAT exempt. Online sessions cost the same and last just as long. All prices are on my prices page, and bundles save 10 per cent.
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My vision is to create a world where every person in my therapy room feels supported, connected, and empowered to grow, and to step one step closer to your Self.
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