This short video shows what working through an affair looks like when both partners sit in the room with me.
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Couples therapy after infidelity Copenhagen is for two partners who want to face an affair together: what happened, why, and whether the relationship can be rebuilt. Each session lasts two hours, in English or Danish, in person at my practice in central Copenhagen or online.
It is a branch of couples therapy Copenhagen. If your partner will not come, see infidelity therapy alone. If you are an international couple in Denmark, see expat infidelity couples therapy. For background reading, my articles on infidelity cover the questions people ask most.
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Couples therapy after infidelity is for two partners in or near Copenhagen, or online, who want to work through an affair together.
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“In more than two decades of sitting with couples, I have met a great many in the months after an affair was discovered. The partner who was hurt is often asking ‘Was any of it real?’, and the partner who strayed is asking ‘Can I ever make this right, or should I just stay quiet?’. Some feel ‘Hold me’ and ‘Get away from me’ within the same conversation. When both of you can hear those questions, repair has somewhere to begin.”
Mark Colclough, MA, psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist
I am Mark Colclough, MA, a psychotherapist and EFT couples therapist specialising in expats and international couples. I work in English and Danish, from my practice in central Copenhagen and online.
Practising since 2004, I bring a bicultural perspective to work with individuals and couples across languages and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with approaches such as integral psychotherapy, Gestalt therapy, Jungian psychoanalysis, and object relations theory. I also have specialist training in attachment theory, narcissism, and borderline personality disorder.
For support with life between cultures, explore expat psychotherapy or expat couples therapy. My practice is supported by ongoing training and supervision. To read more about my background, training, and approach, visit About me.
I regularly meet with experienced senior psychotherapists in Denmark and abroad to reflect on my work, challenge my thinking, and continue developing my skills. This ongoing process supports the quality of my individual and couples therapy, helping me offer thoughtful, ethical, and effective care.
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Line and Jesper have been married for twelve years and have two teenagers. Line found out that Jesper had a six-month affair with someone from his running club. She wants to know everything; he answers in short sentences and then goes for a run. Every evening ends in tears or a slammed door.
In our sessions, they agree on set times to talk about the affair and times when it stays off the table. Jesper learns to stay in the room and answer fully. Line starts to feel that her questions matter. Months later, they can talk about what had gone missing between them long before the affair.
I have presented this clinical example as a compound of 22 years of clinical practice.
An affair breaks something between two people. Repair also has to happen between two people.
After an affair comes out, many couples find that every conversation slides into accusation or silence. Both of you are hurting, in very different ways.
In our sessions, I hold the conversation steady, so both of you can be heard without it becoming another fight.
The first weeks after discovery are often the hardest. Sleep goes, work suffers and the same argument repeats every evening.
We begin by agreeing how to talk about the affair, and when not to.
The hurt partner may need many answers. The other may want to stop talking about it as soon as possible.
We find a pace that gives the questions room without reopening the wound every night.
Many couples want to stay together but have no idea how. Good intentions are not enough on their own.
We set out, step by step, what rebuilding will ask of each of you.
After an affair, even ordinary things can feel suspicious: a late message, a locked phone, an extra hour at work.
We agree on openness that feels reassuring rather than controlling.
Physical closeness can become painful, confusing or simply absent for a while.
We talk about intimacy openly and at a pace that suits you both.
Some couples are not yet sure they want to stay together. That uncertainty is normal.
We can look at it honestly, without pushing you either way.
Recognise yourselves? A booked session or a short call is the way in, and it does not matter which of you writes first.
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First the truth. Then the reasons. Then a choice you make together.
We work on the questions, the hurt, what made the relationship vulnerable and what rebuilding needs from both of you.
I set clear ground rules from the first session: one person speaks at a time, questions are asked to understand, not to punish. That makes hard conversations possible.
Yes. Together we sort the questions that will help from those that only feed sleepless nights, and the unfaithful partner practises answering fully, without self-defence.
Yes. Shame often makes the unfaithful partner defend, minimise or go quiet. I notice that as it happens and help them stay, listen and answer.
Often, yes. We trace the months and years before the affair, the distance, the unspoken resentments, the busy seasons, while responsibility stays where it belongs. Seeing that is what protects you in future.
Yes. Trust grows from small promises kept again and again. We agree what those promises are and check how they are going.
Usually: the affair can be mentioned without an explosion, you laugh together again now and then, and staying feels like a decision rather than a habit.
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Undecided is fine. Two people willing to sit in the same room is enough to start.
Early on, each of you gets uninterrupted time to tell me the story as you lived it. I check how you are both sleeping, working and parenting, and we agree how the sessions will run. Should something else suit you better, I say so.
Two hours, with room for a pause. We hear both accounts, agree ground rules for talking at home and choose one thing to try before we meet again.
No. I do not demand every detail. We work out together which information helps healing and which only adds new pictures to the pain.
Sometimes, yes. A short individual meeting can help one of you say something that is hard to say in front of the other. I explain how I handle that before we start.
Often every two weeks at first, then with longer gaps as things settle.
Working through an affair takes several sessions. A bundle sets a plan and costs 10 per cent less. The bundle cards further down show the options.
The affair no longer fills every evening, you can talk about it calmly and small moments of closeness return. Then we decide together what comes next.
Not sure this is the right page? Here are the nearest options.
| Option | Choose it when | Pace |
|---|---|---|
| Couples therapy after infidelity (this page) | You come together after an affair. | 2-hour sessions, every two weeks at first |
| Infidelity therapy alone | You come on your own. | 1-hour individual sessions |
| Expat infidelity couples therapy | You are an international couple in Denmark. | 2-hour sessions |
| Couples therapy Copenhagen | The affair is not the main issue. | 2-hour sessions every few weeks |
It is couples therapy for two partners who want to work through an affair together. Sessions are two hours, in English or Danish, in person in central Copenhagen or online.
As soon as you are both willing. Many couples come within the first weeks, before the hurt hardens into silence or endless arguments.
Rebuilding trust is very hard while the affair continues. We can still meet to understand where you stand, but the repair work begins once it has ended.
No. I do not keep secrets that affect the work with both of you. I explain this clearly in the first session.
We can still meet. We look at what each of you wants, and if one of you decides to leave, I help you separate with as little harm as possible.
Yes. I work in English and Danish, and sessions can be in person in central Copenhagen or online.
No. Responsibility for the affair is clear, and a fair hearing for the person who had it is still part of the work. Both of you get room.
It varies a great deal. Many couples need several months. We review progress together every few sessions.
A 2-hour couples therapy session costs 3,700 DKK including VAT. Online sessions cost the same and last just as long. You can see all prices on my prices page, and bundles save 10 per cent.
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