Acute EFT couples therapy Copenhagen
When your relationship is in crisis and you need help now
I help you slow the conflict and find a way forward together.
Meet Mark
In this video, I explain how I work with couples when conflict, hurt or disconnection has become difficult to manage alone.
I will show you how acute EFT couples therapy can help you slow things down, understand the cycle between you and begin finding your way back to each other.
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At a glance
When your relationship reaches crisis point, you may both be reacting faster than either of you can think. Arguments escalate, one of you withdraws, trust can suddenly feel fragile and conversations that once seemed manageable go nowhere.
I help you slow that cycle down. In acute EFT couples therapy, I work with both of you to understand what is happening underneath the anger, fear, pursuit or withdrawal so that you can begin responding to each other differently.
You do not need to arrive knowing how to fix your relationship. You only need to be willing to look honestly at what is happening between you and take the next step together.
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An experienced psychotherapist offering psychotherapy and EFT couples therapy in Copenhagen
I am a certified psychotherapist (M.A.), the highest professional level recognised in both Denmark and England, and I work from my private practice in central Copenhagen as well as online.
For more than twenty years, I have worked with individuals, couples, and families across multiple countries and cultural contexts. My work integrates depth-oriented psychotherapy with a calm, grounded Danish presence.
Alongside my clinical practice, I have continued advanced training in couples therapy, supervision, and relational work. I am recently completed Master Class Further Training in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT therapy) for couples.
The importance of supervision
Good therapy begins with good supervision
I regularly meet with experienced senior psychotherapists in Denmark and abroad to reflect on my work, challenge my thinking, and continue developing my skills. This ongoing process supports the quality of my individual, couples, and family therapy, helping me offer thoughtful, ethical, and effective care.
My focus is simple: excellence, integrity, and impact.
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When you may need acute EFT couples therapy
Something has happened between you, or the same painful pattern keeps happening again. You may still love each other deeply, but right now neither of you knows how to stop what is happening between you.
A relationship crisis does not always begin with one dramatic event. Sometimes it builds through months of arguments, distance, disappointment or failed attempts to reconnect. Sometimes there has been a betrayal, a disclosure or a single conversation that suddenly changes how safe the relationship feels.
In my experience, couples often reach out when they have stopped being able to solve the problem by themselves. I am not interested in deciding who is right. I want to help you understand the cycle that has taken hold between you, reduce the immediate intensity and create enough emotional safety for both of you to begin thinking clearly again.
When every conversation becomes another argument
You may start a conversation genuinely intending to sort something out, only to find yourselves having the same fight again. One of you pushes harder to be understood, the other becomes defensive or withdraws, and before long you are both reacting to the reaction rather than talking about what originally mattered.
I help you slow those moments down and identify what happens immediately before the conflict escalates. When you can both see the cycle rather than simply blaming each other for it, you have a much better chance of changing what happens next.
When you desperately want closeness — and then push it away
Sometimes both impulses happen at once. You may desperately want reassurance and connection, but become frightened, angry or mistrustful when your partner comes close. You reach, retreat, attack, apologise, reconnect and pull away again.
I help you make sense of those apparently contradictory reactions. When closeness and danger have become tangled together, understanding what your attachment system is protecting can begin to make your reactions far less confusing to both of you.
When you are frightened of losing your partner
When your attachment system becomes anxious, distance can feel unbearable. You may need reassurance now. You may ask the same question repeatedly, send another message, push for another conversation or become increasingly distressed when your partner does not respond.
I help you understand what is underneath that urgency. When you can recognise the fear driving the pursuit, I can help you express what you actually need without escalating the very cycle that is frightening you.
When one of you shuts down and pulls away
When emotional intensity becomes overwhelming, your instinct may be the opposite: get away, stop talking, go quiet or shut the whole conversation down. You may care deeply about your partner while feeling completely unable to give them the emotional response they are asking for.
I do not treat withdrawal as proof that you do not care. I help you understand what happens inside you when closeness becomes too intense, and we work on staying emotionally present without forcing you beyond what you can manage.
When you want to feel safe with each other again
You may not need another analysis of everything that has gone wrong. You may simply want to know whether the two of you can still reach each other without another argument, shutdown or emotional explosion.
I help you create small experiences of safer connection first. You listen differently. You respond differently. You begin discovering whether the relationship can become somewhere you can both be vulnerable without immediately needing to defend yourselves.
When you do not know whether the relationship can survive
You may love each other and still be wondering whether you can continue. One of you may desperately want to repair the relationship while the other is uncertain. Or both of you may be exhausted enough to question whether trying again will simply lead to more pain.
I will not tell you that every relationship should be saved. I will help you understand what has happened, what remains between you and what each of you would need for the relationship to become viable again. You do not need the final answer before coming to therapy. You need somewhere to start finding it.
What acute EFT couples therapy can help you do
When you are caught in a relationship crisis, trying harder is not always the answer. I help you understand the cycle between you, calm the emotional intensity and begin changing how you respond to each other.
EFT looks beneath the argument. I am interested not only in what you fight about, but in what happens emotionally when one of you feels rejected, criticised, abandoned, overwhelmed or no longer important to the other.
My job is to help both of you see that process clearly enough to do something different with it. We work with what is happening between you now while also understanding the deeper emotional and attachment patterns that keep pulling you back into the same place.
Understand the cycle that keeps taking over
The argument may be about money, sex, children, work, trust or who was supposed to do something. But after working with couples for many years, I know that the subject of the argument and its emotional meaning are often very different things.
I help you see what happens underneath the words: the protest, fear, hurt, protection and longing that keep the cycle moving. Once you can see the cycle, you can begin fighting the problem instead of fighting each other.
Make sense of wanting connection and fearing it at the same time
If your attachment reactions move rapidly between reaching and retreating, relationships can become exhausting. You may want your partner desperately and mistrust them almost simultaneously. Neither of you knows which version of the relationship will appear next.
I help you slow that sequence down. You begin recognising what triggers the movement towards closeness and what suddenly makes closeness feel unsafe. That gives you more choice instead of leaving the relationship governed by reactions neither of you understands.
Express your need for closeness without chasing it
If you become anxious when connection feels threatened, I help you slow the pursuit down enough to understand what you are actually asking your partner for. Beneath anger, repeated questions or demands for reassurance there is often something far more vulnerable.
You learn to communicate that vulnerability more directly. Instead of pushing harder because you are frightened of losing connection, I help you tell your partner what their distance means to you and what you genuinely need from them.
Stay emotionally present without becoming overwhelmed
If your instinct is to withdraw when emotions intensify, I help you understand what happens immediately before you disappear emotionally. You may be protecting yourself from criticism, failure, conflict or simply an intensity your nervous system cannot process quickly enough.
I help you find ways of remaining present without becoming flooded. You do not have to become somebody who processes emotion exactly like your partner. You need to become more reachable when the relationship needs you.
Build a more secure connection between you
Security is not never arguing. It is knowing that when something goes wrong, the two of you have a reasonable chance of finding each other again. You can speak, listen, repair and remain emotionally available without every difficult moment threatening the relationship itself.
I help you practise that different way of relating in the room. Over time, you can become more accessible, responsive and engaged with each other — not because conflict disappears, but because conflict no longer automatically means losing connection.
Become clearer about what happens next
Acute therapy is not about forcing you to promise that everything will be fine. Sometimes the next step is rebuilding the relationship. Sometimes it is establishing stronger boundaries, continuing with couples therapy or deciding whether both of you genuinely want to continue.
I help you separate the emotional intensity of the crisis from the decisions you actually need to make. You may not leave knowing exactly where your relationship will be six months from now, but you can leave much clearer about what needs to happen next.
What happens when you come to acute EFT couples therapy
You do not need to arrive calm, agree about what has happened or know whether your relationship can be repaired. Bring me the relationship as it is. We start there.
When couples come to me in crisis, I do not expect them to present me with a neat explanation of what went wrong. You may interrupt each other, disagree completely about what happened or be sitting beside somebody who barely wants to speak. That is useful information. It shows me the relationship as it is functioning right now.
My first job is to help both of you feel safe enough to slow things down. From there, I help you understand the attachment cycle underneath the crisis, experience each other differently and work out what needs to happen next.
Your first session starts with what is happening now
I want to understand why you are sitting in front of me today. Something has brought the relationship to a point where continuing as you have been is no longer working. We begin with that rather than spending the first hour taking an exhaustive history.
I will listen to both of you and start identifying the pattern between you. You do not have to agree about every detail. I am looking for what happens when one of you becomes hurt, frightened or overwhelmed, what the other does next, and how the cycle takes over from there.
I help both of you slow the cycle down
When a couple is distressed, conversations can move incredibly quickly. One sentence triggers another, somebody becomes defensive, somebody pushes harder, somebody withdraws, and within minutes you are back inside the same fight.
I will interrupt that process when necessary. I help you slow down enough to notice what you are feeling, what you are protecting and what you need from each other. You do not have to solve the entire relationship in the room. First, we need to stop the cycle solving it for you.
We work with the attachment pattern underneath the argument
EFT allows me to look beyond who said what and ask a more useful question: what happens to each of you when your connection feels threatened? One of you may pursue reassurance, another may protect themselves by withdrawing, or both of you may move unpredictably between reaching and pulling away.
I help you put language to those reactions without turning either of you into the problem. When you understand what your partner is protecting underneath anger, criticism, silence or distance, you have a chance to respond to the person rather than simply reacting to their defence.
You leave with something you can do differently
Insight matters, but in an acute situation you also need something useful when you walk out of my door. I want you to understand where your cycle begins, what escalates it and what each of you can do when you recognise it starting again.
That might mean slowing a conversation down, asking for reassurance differently, taking space without disappearing, recognising when one of you is becoming overwhelmed or attempting repair earlier. You leave with a clearer understanding of the pattern and a practical next step.
We decide together what kind of support you need next
Acute EFT couples therapy is designed to help you stabilise what is happening now. Sometimes that is enough. Sometimes the immediate crisis settles and it becomes clear that the relationship needs deeper work around trust, attachment, intimacy, communication or recurring conflict.
If you want to continue working together, we can move naturally into couples therapy Copenhagen. If one of you needs a separate therapeutic space for something that belongs primarily to you, individual psychotherapy Copenhagen may be the better next step. I will tell you what I think would be useful, and you decide what feels right for you.
Make continuing therapy financially manageable
If we decide that more than one or two sessions would be useful, you do not necessarily need to book and pay for every appointment individually. I offer therapy discounts and bundle options for people who want to commit to their work over several sessions.
I want the practical side of therapy to be clear before you commit to anything. You can see the options, understand the costs and decide whether ongoing work makes sense for you. Payment is by invoice or bank transfer, and you remain in control of whether you continue.
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Your journey with me
Your journey is unique, and you won’t walk it alone. Together, we’ll create a safe space to explore, grow, and find your path forward.
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STEP 3
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Together we create a personalized plan tailored to your situation.
STEP 4
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Begin your sessions and move forward with guidance and support.
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Frequently asked questions
How quickly can we book acute EFT couples therapy?
I offer short-notice appointments when my calendar allows because I know that a relationship crisis can become harder to contain when you are left waiting. If you need help quickly, contact me and I will tell you the earliest appointment I can offer.
You can also request a free 30-minute discovery call if you are unsure whether acute EFT couples therapy is the right place to start.
What happens in our first acute EFT couples therapy session?
I start with what is happening between you now. You do not need to prepare a relationship history or agree about who caused the problem. I want to understand the crisis, hear both of you and see the cycle that has developed between you.
From there, I help you slow the emotional intensity and begin identifying what each of you is experiencing underneath the argument, withdrawal or distress. You should leave with greater clarity about what is happening and what to do next.
What if one of us wants therapy and the other is unsure?
Come as you are. I regularly work with couples where one person desperately wants help while the other is sceptical, exhausted or uncertain whether the relationship can be repaired. I do not need both of you to arrive equally convinced.
I will not pressure either of you into staying together or continuing therapy. My job is to help you understand what is happening between you and create enough safety for a more useful conversation about what comes next.
Can EFT help when one of us withdraws and the other keeps pursuing?
Yes. Pursuit and withdrawal are among the relationship patterns EFT is particularly interested in. The more urgently one of you reaches for connection, the more overwhelmed the other may become; the more they withdraw, the more frightened and urgent the pursuing partner becomes.
I help you stop treating each other as the enemy and begin understanding what each reaction is protecting. Once that cycle becomes visible, both of you have more opportunity to respond differently.
Do we have to know whether we want to stay together?
No. You can come precisely because you do not know. One of you may want to repair the relationship while the other is uncertain, or both of you may be moving between hope and wanting to leave.
I will not decide the future of your relationship for you. I help you separate what you know from what you fear, understand what would actually need to change and make your next decision from a calmer place.
Do you offer therapy bundles or discounts if we continue?
Yes. If you decide that ongoing work would be useful, you can read about my current therapy discounts and bundle options. This can make continued therapy more financially manageable than approaching every appointment as a separate decision.
I will never ask you to commit to a course of therapy before we know whether working together is useful. Start with the problem you have now. We can decide what comes next afterwards.
Can we continue with couples therapy after the acute sessions?
Yes. Acute work deals with what needs attention now. If the immediate crisis settles but the underlying attachment or relationship cycle needs deeper work, you can continue with my couples therapy Copenhagen service.
If something needs to be worked with individually instead, individual psychotherapy Copenhagen may be more appropriate. I will discuss those options openly with you rather than automatically recommending more sessions.
Can we have acute EFT couples therapy online?
Yes. I offer online sessions when coming to my Copenhagen practice is difficult or when meeting remotely simply works better for you.
The therapeutic focus remains the same: I help you slow the cycle, understand what is happening emotionally between you and create a safer way of responding to each other.
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My mission
My mission is to help individuals, couples and families rediscover connection, communicate with understanding, and build a stronger, more loving relationship that can thrive through any challenge.
My vision
My vision is to create a world where every person in my therapy room feels supported, connected, and empowered to grow, and to step one step closer to your Self.
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